Good Manners

Good Manners (Adab)

Having good manners is the foundation of chivalry and is on the path of peace and self-development. Adab means to treat people with courtesy and politeness, to be refined in your actions and humble in your speech and also to be respectful of your elders and teachers. It means to be helpful to others beyond your own needs. If you have good manners you greatly lessen your chances of getting into fights. Good manners are contagious and help foster politeness and ease in your everyday life. Some of the good manners we encourage are common sense and some are aspects of the Indo-Malay culture from which Pencak Silat came.   In the art of Pencak Silat, adab is considered as essential as your physical training. We encourage all students to use good manners when at the school and at school events and to let these habits spread to your daily life. In this way students of Gerakan Suci will be known not only as proficient martial artists, but as polite and humble citizens.

School Etiquette
A martial arts school must have a well-developed etiquette and sense of ethics in order to provide a safe and supportive training environment. We have developed the Open Circle Academy as a family environment. We encourage our students to treat the teachers as your father and mother and each other as though they were brothers and sisters, or as if they were all living in the same small village. We especially want the Academy to be a safe and supportive place for women to train, as this is not stressed enough in the martial arts.

It is essential that new students be treated with the same courtesy as long-time members, if not more, as we wish for them to find the Academy to be a safe place to learn. It is considered the height of disrespect for Academy members to intimidate, harass, make sexual advances, or victimize other students. This includes using excessive force in exercises or unwanted flirtation. Those who haze others will be expelled from the school with prejudice, and will forfeit all dues and fees.

Dating among students is discouraged in the strongest possible terms. We have seen over the years that dating between students can often produce unpleasant stresses for the entire school. While we will never stand in the way of true love and know that it is possible to meet your “soul-mate” here, we respectfully suggest that it is more likely that you meet him or her at a dance class or your preferred religious gathering.

Adab suggestions

  • Bow to the school when you enter and when you leave. Leave your shoes at the door.
  • Perform ablutions (ritual washing) before beginning class. Maintain good personal hygiene as a courtesy to your teachers and training partners. This includes keeping your fingernails and toenails trimmed and your breath fresh, and managing any body odor you may have.
  • Bow to your workout partner before you hit each other. Keep contact intense but peaceful.
  • When listening to an instructor or when waiting for instructions, stand in pasan santai (feet shoulder width, right hand over left).
  • The perguruan is a house of discipline, peace & safety. Nurture these attitudes in class and take them with you when you leave.
  • Treat the perguruan as a sacred place of learning where you have come to grow and become the person you envision in your secret heart.
  • Maintaining a clean school is of paramount importance and is the responsibility of the students, not the teachers. Take the initiative to get things done. This is your school so treat it as such.
  • Bring fruit, snacks, and flowers to share with your classmates. Check with the Chai Baba (Tea Master).
  • Consider the study of martial arts as a path to self-healing, confidence, discipline and spiritual unfolding.
  • Treat your teachers and fellow students with respect and dignity.
  • Treat yourself with patience and gentleness.
  • Be always sincere but never serious.
  • Be lighthearted but not frivolous.